“Right now I feel so broken.”

Those are difficult words to say out loud. There is a sense of hopelessness that you are beyond repair; unknowable loneliness accompanies the thought. Staying silent can fuel shame around not knowing how to make things better or strengthen the idea we deserve to feel this way.

Having the courage to say it out loud brings opportunity. We can right-size this feeling. I can tell you I have felt this way before—struggling in college, during my divorce, changing my career, experiencing perimenopause...You may feel alone in this brokenness but I can assure you that you are surrounded by many who have felt this way. How it looks differs from person to person; to be human is to experience suffering.

When we share this state, we can undo our aloneness. Your trusted friend or your therapist can hold this with you. It may sound contradictory—when you say it out loud, when we remember others have experienced a version of this pain, it brings relief. Others have passed through this state, and you will too.

When we use mindful self-compassion, we can acknowledge that this is a moment of suffering. This is part of the human experience and we cannot be perfect 24/7. With this in mind, we can work on being kind to ourselves in a comforting or fierce, action-oriented way.

Our Healing Therapy trains each therapist to help clients increase awareness and discover self-compassion. Contact us today to begin this journey.