Do you know what you need?

In our achievement-oriented culture, we can lose sight of what we need. Whether it is to be comforted, be understood or to solve a problem, identifying and communicating these three things helps us feel seen and understood within our relationships. Below is a simple and powerful way to tune inward, be curious about what is happening to you, right now, and express it to your loved one.

People will say, “Tell me what you need!” In order to do that, you need to:

• Identify what is happening in your body. Are you scared or angry or sad or happy? Knowing requires awareness.

• Take a breath. Put your hand to your heart. What is happening to you right now?

• Once you know what is happening inside, you can ask yourself what you need.

• Begin the conversation with your trusted person requesting their support, openness to listen or help followed by the event or experience you need to share.

Summarizing the steps: 

·       Slow down

·       Take a breath

·       Turn inward to see what is happening

·       Ask yourself what would offer relief

·       Ask for what you need: to be hugged, heard, or helped followed by your experience

We can ask another, “What do you need in this moment: to be comforted, be understood or receive advice/problem solve?” A shorter version is, “Do you need a hug, to be heard or helped?” At Our Healing Therapy, we will help you improve the way you communicate. Contact us today.